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Are you holding yourself back?

One of the things you will find when you start your morning meditation practice is that you have to “make time” to do it, and you cannot be super tired or even a little tired, or you will fall right back to sleep in your chair.

The hardest part about doing 20 minutes of morning meditation is just that, doing it. And, doing it consistently every single morning.

As you start to discover that you are the creator of your reality, your life, and your day…that you actually get to design and create your days (that you are not a victim in any area of your life (money, body image, health, relationships, career, life purpose, travel, fun, etc.), you start to get super excited about your morning ritual of meditation. In the beginning, you will manifest something small (a surprise experience over the weekend, a nearby parking space, a person at Safeway will offer you there spot in line, etc.). And, you say to yourself, “OMG there is something to this quantum physics and epigenetics stuff.” Keep doing it. Keep mastering yourself with your morning meditation. Things will start to happen in a good way. You may drop weight, make more money, laugh more with friends, even find your soul mate.

When you complete your morning meditation, you will get up off your chair and your brain waves will have shifted. Your brain waves prior to meditation were in high beta. This is called being or feeling “stressed out” or “anxious.” During meditation your brain waves shift and slow down, first to alpha, then theta (twilight phase), then delta (almost asleep), and even gamma (super consciousness). Your brain, heart and body become more coherent and calm.

When the brain waves are coherent, the heart is coherent. When the heart is coherent, you are at your best self, you are more giving, you are nicer, and you are less self focused and self absorbed.

Then fantastically good things start to happen to you. Magically you start seeing results manifest in your day. The quantum field comes to you, it meet you directly and delivers to you what you want.

Oops, but then you stop your new morning ritual. You stop getting up early and making the time for meditation. You go back to the old you, your old habits, and soon before you know it, 3-4 days have gone by and you are not meditating. You are hitting the snooze button on your alarm at least 2-3 times, and you are rushing out of your house like a mad man or woman. Now, you are back to a crazy brain, an incoherent brain, a brain that if we took a scan of it would show high beta waves which are associated with stress, anxiety, fear and worry. Not cool. This is not a place where you will be calm enough to be creative and resourceful during the day. Instead, you will be testy, reactive and the next time someone cuts you off on the road, or sends you a challenging email, you will lose your temper and start swearing out loud. Sound familar?

So, I ask you:
Are you holding yourself back?
Are you spinning your wheels?

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ARE YOU READY TO TRY SOMETHING DIFFERENT?

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For me, as a Life Coach and Leader in Mind Body Health, I want to grow quickly, at an exponential rate. I want to progress and I want to do it quickly.

How fast do you want to progress? Again, it’s all about you, your intention and what you want.

Here is what I suggest, “Do your 20 minutes of morning meditation, strengthen your mental frame, become a stronger person with a
stronger personality.” Meditation is the practice of rehearsal, and practice makes perfect. When you wake up and set your clear intentions for the day, you grow and become a new, stronger, better you.
Master yourself, master you and especially your lifestyle choices.

Where are you dependent/addicted? Where are you on the “hamster wheel of life?” Here are some of the lifestyle pitfalls of myself and my clients:

1. Drinking alcohol excessively or moderately, but regularly.
(red wine can creep into my lifestyle too regularly & I find myself tired and spinning my wheels). I will go into detail about the ill effects of alcohol down below. The news is not pretty, alcohol is an energy vampire.

2. Spending too much time “other” focused (on your kids, or an intimate relationship). Codependency is an energy vampire.

3. Over doing daily FB, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest = Social Media
Energy vampire.

4. Distracting yourself with overeating foods, especially addictive sugar and processed carbohydrates. Energy vampire.

5. All addictions, shopping, gambling, computer dating, sex, porn,
over spending. Energy vampire.

Take a cold, hard, conscious look at what personal choices and lifestyle habits are keeping you on the hamster wheel. Make a note and
circle all that apply to you. Then work privately with your meditation practice and hire a coach. Get support each week, you will see results much faster and everyone needs an accountability buddy to stay on track. We are not meant to grow alone or on an island. Human beings are herd animals and we do much better sharing in community and working together to reach common objectives.

A little more on alcohol and it isn’t pretty.
Make drinking the exception versus the rule.

1. The worst thing for sleep.
1-4 drinks will decrease your REM sleep during the first half of the
night and then the second half of the night due to frequent trips to the bathroom (where your liver is hard at work, de-toxing your body).
REM sleep is important for consolidating memories and learning from the previous day. It aides in cellular growth, repair and recovery.

Fragmented sleep causes daytime symptoms of decreased concentration
and excessive sleepiness during the day.

2.  People who snore or have sleep apnea will have more muscle relaxation of their airway muscles. Drinking will worsen their snoring and breathing at night, impacting sleep quality and daytime function.

Women absorb more alcohol per drink than men. They also are not as good at metabolizing it. Women have less of the enzyme alcohol dehydrogenase, so they do not break down alcohol as effectively.

3. No nutritional value.
Ethanol, the type of alcohol found in drinks has toxic metabolic
byproducts called acetaldehyde and acetate. Both by-products create the
queasy nauseous feeling you get when you’ve have too many units of
alcohol for your personal body.

4. Disrupts your digestion.
Weekly or nightly, chronic ingestion of 1-4 drinks of alcohol
can disrupt your digestion, making it difficult for your body to absorb
nutrients like amino acids and B vitamins.

Alcohol is a toxin, it damages the stomach and intestinal lining of the gut.
Causing leaky gut symptoms and inflammation.

It impairs protein synthesis and increases muscle break down
(not great if you have been hitting the gym, you can negate 1 weeks
worth of training in 1 night of drinking 2-5 drinks).

Increases weight, body fat (especially belly fat).
1 unit of alcohol, takes one hour to metabolize.
3 units (I pint of beer) takes 3 hours to metabolize.
3 units (8 oz. wine) takes 3 hours to metabolize.
While your liver is working hard to metabolize this drug, food breakdown
in not occurring. The food you ingest prior, during and after drinking
alcohol will be more readily stored at fat.

5.  Lowers testosterone.
Studies show that drinking 2-3 beers per day can lower
one’s testosterone levels by

6.  Alcohol inhibits your consciousness and judgment because it effects
your central nervous system. It lowers motor skill function .
It stimulates you appetite, you eat too much food and make poor choices.

7. Alcohol causes cortisol to rise in the brain and the body.
Alcohol stimulates ACTH in the brain which induces cortisol.
Cortisol is the negative, stress hormone.

8. Alcohol lowers your immune system and increases overall
body inflammation so you are more prone to colds and getting sick.
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It’s time to become a master manifestor!
It’s time to bridge personal goals with family and business objectives.

If you are curious to know more about my 1-1 coaching programs or
my corporate team solutions PURE and PURE PLUS, send an
email to (melissa@reddcoaching.com) or reply to this mail.
I offer free 30 minute phone sessions. P. 650-346-3315.

You are worth it!

Warm Regards,
Melissa Redd

Redd Coaching

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1. Daily Morning Meditation
20 minutes a day, or  the Redd Coaching way, 28 minutes to music,
“Bija” music by Todd Norian is fabulous.  You can find him on Itunes.

The natural way we should feel is:
Gratitude, Love, Self Love, Joy, Awe, and Peace/Calm.

When our brain waves are in a constant state of emergency (out of coherence)
we are in a state called:  high beta brain wave fuction and we feel:
insecurity, fear, judgment, worry, sadness, anger, impatience and disgust.
This is the brain “over aroused”.   When this occurs, our body turns on
stress hormones, which then turn on genes that cause disease.
We esssentially get addicted to our own hormones of stress, we become addicted
to our old stories and our drama…to feel something.
We turn on our genes for sickness, we get sick,  we get colds,  we can gain weight,
we do not sleep well.  If these negative emotions continue to circulate in the forefront or backdrop of our minds, we will get more serious diseases such as auto immune diseases, infections, heart attacks and cancers.

What to do:  Turn your brain waves around, re-set yourself with your morning meditation, daily in the a.m.. When I am working with my one on one clients, I will do it with them in session to help them practice, reherse and train themselves, until the client becomes competent and proficient on their own.
2. The Body is Holy and a Miracle, start treating it that way and believing it. You will start to see huge shifts in your body and life in as short as a week to 30 days.

3. Express your emotions pretty darn quickly.  When you feel angry, sad, worried, etc.
Express it soon, choose the right timing, get calm first and express “it” to whomever you need to have a talk with.  Don’t brush these emotions under the rug.  When you let these
emotions build up, that is what they do, build up… they then turn on the hormones for stress and the genes for disease will follow.   It’s like a domino effect, all starting with your negative thoughts.  You may be completely right in feeling anger, someone may have done something to make you angry.  But, discuss it with them.  Get an agreement that this issue will not occur again with this individual.  If you can’t get an agreement with him or her, choose other friends and colleges to be in your inner circle of life.  Don’t wait, don’t bottle yourself up, or literally you will start to blow up.

4. Don’t act out life’s traumas in your body.  If you don’t get a solid handle on #3,  you will act out life’s traumas in your body, it is sure to happen.  Handle #3, take action and then your body will not act out your life’s traumas, it will not start to breakdown and you will stay healthy and bulletproof.

Much Love and Gratitude,

Melissa Redd, REDD COACHING

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Your intention is so strong. When your message is clear to yourself, and it is coming from your truth, your heart… it is even stronger.

Did you know that being born as a human being is a gift. You could of been born as a bird, a puppy, or a lady bug. But no, you chose to incarnate into this world as a human being and you are a gift! You are powerful, you are complicated, and you can do good on this earth or you can do evil. You have a very strong magical power, and that is the power to manifest!

Our intentions are critical, sending a pure signal to the Universe is critical.

Here are the 8 steps to get straight with how to make intentions turn into your reality… in the way I have experienced it.

The 8 STEPS:

1. Know that you are a gift. What is the perspective you have of yourself? Are you a victim, a co-dependent, or a GIFT? Let me tell you what I know for sure, you are a gift. Every human being has the power to manifest!

2. Set you intention each morning. Write it down specifically and then look at your outline each morning. Then, let go of how it is supposed to show up. The GRAND MYSTERY is activated and starting to work, now.

3. Feel your intention in your heart as a soft breeze. It is always there. It does not feel like a storm or a needy goal…it is not aggressive, it is a knowing.

4. Visualize your intention clearly. See it every morning as if it were already here. See it in your house, driving in your car, at work and with you after work. Oh yes, it is right with you.

5. Emotionally feel it. Every morning feel the value you have by having this intention and feel the value others feel by you having this intention.

6. Let go of any expectation of exactly how it is supposed to show up in your life.

7. The Universe will test you to see if you are truly serious about your intention. You will fall down.
Will you get back up?
Yes, get back up and take action, then take action again.
Then, take action again. Consistent action is key.

8. Birth it.

And, this is the process that has worked for me. I did this as I created the luxury retreat side of my coaching business. I visualized doing yoga by the ocean, and life coaching in a family style format – having deep, intimate conversation over dinner in a luxury home.
June of 2015 was my first retreat in Half Moon Bay, I sold out. I just completed my second retreat on in Jan. 2016 in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. I was scarred, it took a ton of effort and money up front…but I did it. I have created more love and value in my tribe, and I am very proud of myself. You will be too.

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The next Luxury Yoga & Life Coaching Retreat is in Tahoe June 23 – 26, 2016! Watch for early bird (special pricing) at the end of Feb. 2016.

Warm Regards,
Melissa

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Personal Identity – A CHANGE?

What is your personal identity? What do you call yourself? What do you say to yourself with that quiet, inner voice?
Do you say, “I am a Firewoman, An Author, A Full-Time Mother, An Office Staff Worker, A Public Speaker, A Certified Public Accountant, A Go Green Attorney, A Healer, or, I am not much of anything? The list can go on and on. Is it uplifting for you?

Did you know that the way in which you speak to yourself is what you are and what you will become? I have a famous, “right on the money” saying, and that is, “Be careful of your thoughts, they become words, be careful of your words, they become actions, be careful of your actions, they become habits, be careful of your habits, they become your destiny at the bank, in your relationships and with your body. I borrowed that from World Renowned, Cognitive Behavior Therapist, and Therapist on the show Millionaire Matchmaker, Dr. Pat Allen.

What if I told you , you CAN change your personal identity, your personal definition of yourself, just by CHANGING the STORY you are telling yourself Yes, this is true!

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Hello Friends,

My mission for you is to be able to decrease the stress, difficulties and trauma in your life, and become more peaceful, productive and happy!

Today we are going to talk about self-care in other words, self love.  I am going to give you 5 tips, that if you put them into place this morning and make them NEW DAILY habits/ (RITUALS), you are going to feel amazing!

Prime yourself each morning with a technique I call “Priming.”
1. Wake up with GRATITUDE, think and visualize 3 things your are truly grateful for.
2. Wake up and say, “Yes, what am I going to CREATE today?” You have the power to create and design your day!
3. Old story, if you are feeling negative, know it is your “Old Story” coming up. Give it 30 seconds, then drop it.
4. Do for another. Ask yourself, “What am I going to do today to help another? Help to relieve Universal suffering.
5. STATE. If you are in a negative state, do a “shake- it off” ritual to change your body and yourself into a POSITIVE STATE. You can also quickly watch a funny joke on YouTube. This will make you laugh, raise your vibration and instantly put you in a POSITIVE STATE. (more on this later:).

BOOM!

Warm Regards,
Melissa Redd

Now..go get it!

Learn to release negative emotions, improve hip strength, improve hip opening, and improve hip function.

The Center Splits – Samakonasana

1.  Stretches the hips and groin area

2.  Provides strength to the hip joint and cures pain in that region

3.  Releases deeply stored up negative emotions such as fear, guilt and sadness

There are so many reasons to do hip-opening poses: Supple hips can ease back pain, give you a more agile gait, and even improve circulation in your legs. But there’s a more subtle benefit to hip openers, too: We hold stress and negative emotions—such as fear, guilt, and sadness—in our pelvis, says  “You know your junk drawer at home?” she asks. “The pelvis is like the body’s junk drawer. Whenever you don’t know what to do with a feeling or experience, you put it there.”  Says, Stephanie Snyder.

Snyder designed the following sequence to move your ball-and-socket hip joint through its full range of motion. When you do it regularly, you may see improvement in the rest of your practice, since the pelvis is the foundation of alignment in many poses. Here are some things to remember as you do the sequence. Take your time with opening your hips, because hip ligaments are strong. “Don’t push yourself,” Snyder advises. “Be receptive to the breath moving into the pose.” If you have a knee injury, modify the seated poses by straightening your bottom leg, and practice poses on your back. At the same time, don’t avoid difficulty. People often dread hip openers because they are such a challenge. “Don’t look away from tight places,” Snyder says. “Be present without judgment. You can really make this a delicious practice.”

Utthan Pristhasana (Lizard Pose)

From Down Dog, step your right foot between your hands to a lunge position. Bring both forearms to the floor inside the right leg. Keep your inner left thigh lifting and resisting. As your left heel reaches back, your heart opens forward to create length in your upper back. You can modify the pose by bringing your back knee down or placing your forearms on a block. Stay for 8 breaths. Switch sides.

Gomukhasana (Cow Face Pose), variation

From sitting, stack your right knee on top of your left. Your feet should be in about the same place on either side. Keep your feet active. Inhale to lift and lengthen you spine. You can stay here or you can fold forward by reaching your arms in front of you and resting your head near your knees. Keep rooting your sitting bones into the earth as you allow the front of your hips to soften into the body. Stay for 5 to 8 breaths. Switch sides.

Frog Pose

From all fours, bring your forearms to the floor. You can put a blanket under each knee for padding. Widen your knees, one at a time, as far apart as possible and bend them so that your thighs and your shins are at 90-degree angles. Flex your feet. Keep your front ribs in, your waist long, and your tailbone down. Take 5 to 10 long, deep breaths through this challenging and effective hip opener.

Have a wonderful week! And get a cat nap in!
Warm Regards,
Melissa Redd, YogaKitty